As advanced and modern as we like to think of ourselves in society, I feel we're actually a lot worse off in many ways than our great-grandparents. We may have more technology and I'm not saying I'm not grateful for it, but sadly, we're turning into a generation of people who lack skill sets and a sense of pride in their work. (I know this isn't true of everyone, in fact, if you're reading this, then it most likely does not apply to you)
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We're entrenched in a world of hurry up, keeping up with the newest and greatest thing, looking for that one thing that's going to give us an edge, a to-do list a mile long, and multi-tasking like we're an octopus with eight arms. I'm not judging, because I'm guilty of all of these things in one form or another. And if you're honest with yourself, I'm willing to lay money down you are too, to one degree or another.
There's a lot of things we have going for us today, but there's a few areas where we need to take a look and reconsider going back to our great-grandparents (or grandparent's depending upon your age) and learning from them.
6 Things Our Great-Grandparent's Did Better Than Us
1. Use local. While there's nothing more local than growing it yourself (hello backyard grocery shopping, I love you) the next best thing is buying it from someone you know. During the Great Depression Years and before, if you weren't raising it yourself, then you knew the person you were buying it from. My grandparent's and father had a milk cow, but for those who didn't, there was a dairy and local milk man who delivered the milk by wagon. You could go by the dairy, see the cows, and talk to the man providing your milk, literally.
If you needed lumber, you went and put in your order at the local mill. You saw the log, told the sawyer what you wanted, and you'd come and pick it back up from him when it was done.
We still buy our milk locally. It comes in a glass bottle and I return the bottle to the store when I purchase more.
A store-bought outfit was a big deal. Most people wore home-sewn clothes, many made from the flour sacks when times were lean. Or when Papa's shirt couldn't be mended anymore or Mother's dress was too frayed, it was cut down into a small dress or shirt for the youngest member of the family.
Not enough material left for clothing? Then it went into the rag bag to be made into a quilt or rag rug for the floor.
You learned how to sew. Seams were made to last and buttons were sewn on tight and re-used. A button box was something almost every house had and they were prized items, not to be thrown out when you no longer liked the clothes or outgrew them. For repairing seams, sewing on buttons, and mending having these basics in a sewing kit is a must.
People had dedicated skill sets. Sewing, quilting, basket making, carpentry. People took pride in the things they were making with their hands. They knew the people who would be wearing or using their handiwork. It wasn't just an assembly piece in a factory.
2. Skill sets. Our great-grandparents had skill sets and knew how to use them. They didn't rely on stores and huge chains for their needs and goods. They learned how to do things themselves, they were the original DIY's and a lot of times, their lives depending upon it.
Their work became their art form. My father always told me, “If a job's worth doing, it's worth doing well. Give anything you do your best.” As you can imagine, I was kind of being a grump about having to help him fix the fence and may have been not doing such a hot job of holding the wire tight while he mended it.
As an adult, I see the wisdom in his words and remember them when I'm doing something I'd really rather not be. I may have had this pep talk with myself while scrubbing a pan or two out before.
3. Sewing. They made their own clothes and knew how to mend them. I realize there are still quite a few folks who know how to sew, but it's not being taught at home or in schools like it used to.
Look in your closet or in your children's closet. How many items are handmade? How many times do you throw out a piece of clothing because it gets ripped instead of mending it? You might not become a full-on seamstress but learn the basics.
How to mend a seam, how to gather fabric, how to hem. These basic skills will let you do a lot more than you think. Find someone who sews and ask them for a lesson. Most are happy to teach someone. You don't need to buy a sewing machine to learn some good hand sewing skills. I didn't get a sewing machine until much later in life (and I'm still not what I'd called a skilled seamstress by any means), but I can mend and fix most things by hand with just a needle and thread. This is a great beginner's sewing kit for less than $15.
My mother taught me how to stitch a sampler when I was young. My grandmother and mother were both making a quilt top when I was eight and I wanted to be like them. A family friend took me to buy fabric (such a generous gift) to make my very own quilt. My mom sat me down and showed me how to stitch the pieces together by hand. Over time, my stitches became more uniform and neat, until you could barely see them when turned right side out and up. I still use that stitch to mend seams on our clothes, blankets, and pillows today.
I love these vintage looking stitching transfer patterns for embroidery work.
4. Cooking and baking from scratch. There weren't store-bought versions of everything. You stocked a full larder (start with our 8 Foods Everyone Should Be Storing and 6 Tips on Buying Food in Bulk). You were grateful to have food to put on the table and didn't complain that it wasn't what you “wanted”.
You swapped recipes with your neighbor or at church potlucks. (Anyone else love potlucks?) You handed down your most favorite and best dishes to your children, as they were right there with you learning and helping to put the meal on the table.
Looking for from-scratch versions without any processed ingredients? Check out our full Recipe section to get started. My book, Hand Made, has over 100+ old-fashioned recipes!
5. Self-sufficiency. Even though we raise all of our own meat and a good portion of our vegetables, in our day to day life, we're still quite dependent on a lot of modern conveniences brought to us by large companies or entities. I mean, let's face it, I bring this to you via the internet…. but I'm okay with that because I know if I have to, we have the skills and the means to make it on our own.
We save our own heirloom garden seed, we have fruit trees and plants, I preserve and put up a lot of our own food, we forage, and have quite a bit of our grandparent's old-fashioned knowledge!
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6. Helping one another. There was a reason our great-grandparents had barn raisings and roofing parties. They knew how important it was to help out a neighbor because when they needed help, that's who they'd be calling on. Communities banded together to help those who ran into misfortune.
Needed a cup of sugar? You ran over to your neighbor's house to borrow it and knew they'd do the same for you. Actually, a neighbor came over and borrowed cumin from me when she was making relish, and I ran out of dill and went to another neighbor who had extra this past summer. We were all doing a bit of summer preserving and what one didn't' have, the other did.
There are many ways of helping someone, sometimes it's simply being a friend or watching out for their place when they're gone.
In an emergency, your neighbor very well might be the person that saves your life.
We've been a true community of helping each other out with tips and suggestions in the comment section. I'm honored to be a part of your journey and what I consider our “on-line neighborhood.”
Dear Melissa,
While a health issue has prevented my ongoing participation, I have accessed your wonderful information and am grateful. I grew up in a farming community where everyone knew everybody else, all children were watched and cared for by all families, bartering and helping each were everyday occurrences. We taught our children the values we learned and have thankful hearts for our Lord Whose life is our life, Whose hands are “all over” our every minute.
I feel you are a Godsend in the lives of countless individuals who have had the opportunity to walk this path with you. May He continue to bless you and yours and to use you as a channel of blessing to others.
Sheri
Sheri,
Sorry to hear you had a health issue, but so glad you enjoyed the information! Yes, the good Lord’s hands are always guiding us and I’m so grateful for that!
Sheri, I grew up mostly in a small Texas town where everyone knew everyone else. Neighbor’s were neighbor’s and could be relied on. It’s a different world we live in these days. I am so thankful that I grew up in the era I did. (50’s, 60’s, and 70’s). I never did join in on the hippie thing. I really was country when country wasn’t cool. I am so glad that I found Melissa. She is a very smart young lady!
Deborah,
I say we did organic before organic was cool because that’s how my great-grandparents, grandparents, and parents did it! So glad to meet you.
Thank you so much for the information you have shared with us. I’m looking forward to more.
Hi Melissa,
I really enjoy your podcasts and am learning so much!
I am always telling others that our great grandparents did so many things better than we are currently doing and while I do enjoy the technology today, I do long for a simpler life.
My husband and I just moved from one small town to another, and it just amazes me that both times, not one neighbor came over to introduce themselves. We have become more social but less neighborly…go figure. I’m hoping when we move to our farm in the spring that our neighbors will be different.
Keep up the GREAT work with your podcasts and thank you for putting together the show notes….love them!
Congrats on your new book—so so looking forward to it.
Claudine
Claudine,
So glad you’re enjoying the podcast! I’m like you, I love what technology does for us, but I don’t want to lose the values or skills of the simple life with it.
I do hope your new neighbors will be welcoming! That reminds to go over and visit with our new neighbors soon, too.
I’m excited about the book and can’t wait to hear what you think once it’s out.
Blessings!
Our society would be much better off if we embraced these simple thoughts.
They had certain work assigned to certain days, like Monday was wash day.
Melissa, I agree. We’ve been put at such a disadvantage, and now the learning curve for my generation is huge. Thankfully the information hasn’t been lost (thanks to people like you), and people like me have lots of resources to turn towards to learn more. I am working on #1 and 5 especially. Sometimes I feel so terribly out of place in this world, though I know we are doing what is right for our family. It’s such a blessing to be able to learn and talk with like-minded people (thanks to the internet), and to get help and know where to look when we might otherwise be lost. You do a great job on here, thank you!
One of my favorite podcast entry so far :)!
And you just reminded me that I wanted to buy a few zucchinis from a friend who has too much 😉 I want to try your double chocolate zucchini muffin recipe to see if it will fly with my “storebought addict” family :/ ! If so, I’ll grow my own next summer 🙂
If not, I’ll buy a few next summer too and keep all the muffins for ME, héhé 😉
Thanks Julie, let us know what they think of the chocolate zucchini bread. And that I can relate too… keeping ’em for me, lol
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